When it comes to job searching, dating tips can play a pivotal role in helping you connect with the right job, career, or employer.

Some people prefer the ole fashioned way of meeting people, while others go online. You can date or network for a job search by going out with friends to abar, club, or gym. You can take an active interest in friends of friends. You can attend parties and events you otherwise might have ignored. You can follow up with old contacts and let them know you’re actively hunting.  Find a way to meet new people and make new connections. You need to put yourself in places and situations that might help you cross paths and rub shoulders with people who might be hiring or might be able to help you get a foot in the door.

1. Don’t forget that first impressions count! Just like on a date you need to be careful presenting yourself. The first phone conversation, e-mail, or appearance to fill out a job application can give people second thoughts.
2. You can date more than one person at a time before you say yes to a relationship, as long as you are honest about it.  A lot of people like to try the one at a time approach. But this may not always work to your advantage. The person or the job of your dreams may be in the arms of another person. You should be applying to as many jobs within your skill sets that you can. Likewise, consider taking a few contracted, part time or freelance positions to gain skills before taking a full time position. Be respectful of all company confidentiality issues and honor your commitments.
3. Don’t seem too desperate!  No matter how long it’s been since your last date – or how badly you need to find a job – keep your cool. Be friendly, confident and stay relaxed. Don’t give out information that would scare a date or an employer away. For example, you would never go into an interview and say, “I have been unemployed for the last six months, my credit is bad, my bills are behind, and my skills are not that up to date, but I am a hard worker.” It is equivalent to saying on a date, “my friends say I can be very controlling, I might not have a car to take you out in the future, and I am not that romantic, but feel we are good together!” How many people would want to consider continuing with the date?
4. An interview is like a first date.
   • Dress appropriately. Don’t under dress or over dress for the occasion.
   • It is imperative that you call if you are going to be late.
   • Smile and be polite and friendly.
   • Be yourself, but do not be extremely causal to early.
   • Ask relevant questions and keep the conversation on topic.
   • Show that you want a second date/interview.

Don’t be arrogant, shy, insecure, loud, or volatile. It is also okay to be humorous but not inappropriate, vile, mean, or disgusting.

1. The date/interview did not go well, because you gave too much information and now they won’t return your phone calls? If that person or job has blown you off, would you still be interested six months later? Consider letting some time pass, and also understand that they may not want to be bothered. Don’t be a stalker.
2. The date/interview did go well.Call the next day. Say thank you and how much your enjoyed your time together and ask when you can see each other again.

If everything goes as planned and you found someone or a position that you connect with, then ensure that the relationship stays strong with these tips:

• To have a great relationship communication is the key.  If there are problems that begin to arise, discuss them immediately. No one wants to be holding in anger on the job or in a relationship.
• Find common and shared interests that can help foster new ways of doing things.
• Take on challenges and missteps in a clear headed way.

If you get rejected, keep trying. You’ll never go out on a date unless you ask. Likewise, you’ll never know if an employer wants to hire you until you send in your resume or apply for job and follow up. Hearing a “no” every now and then is part of the process. You might feel afraid, but your chances of being publicly embarrassed, laughed or yelled at are very, very slim.

Some people find the person of their dreams and soon they are celebrating anniversaries. Some job seekers find a great job immediately and are able to stay in the same position or get promoted within the company for years.

Most people go on a few dates before deciding that they have found someone that they connect with. Many people will hold several jobs in their field for a few months or a few years before finding a company that they want and are able to stay with for several years.

Good luck in life and in love!